before marriage can have significant effects on children. Read more here.
For Americans, Gottman says the evidence for marriage is strong. The institution’s wide-ranging benefits — better health, longevity, greater wealth — are not conferred on those who cohabit. “Because,” he says, “they’re basically saying, ‘If you get into trouble, baby, you’re on your own; I’m not there for you.’ I think that’s the big problem.” Gottman’s advice, even if you decide not to tie the knot: pick a partner carefully, then hang in there — for better, or worse.