Monasticism is a venerable part of our Orthodox Tradition and for centuries people have both visited monasteries and prayerfully considered taking on a monastic vocation. It would be a great joy if one day our parish would produce men and women who took on the “angelic life” as their calling and I encourage people to take occasional visits to monastic communities for retreat and spiritual refreshment.
Please note, though, some piece of advice that might be helpful in your traveling to, and relationship with, a monastic community.
The first thing I would like you to understand is that holiness and deep observance of our Orthodox Faith are not limited to monastic communities. While monastic life is different from the “regular” world it’s not “better” than your life at home and work, rather it’s another path. Consecration in single life in the world, the life of marriage and family, and the monastic life are all equally valid options, and each has its own challenges and opportunities for theosis. Our Lord was raised in a devout home with holy parents and the routine of life, work, and worship while also taking time to visit the wilderness to pray and reflect thereby showing us that both are acceptable ways of life.
The second thing you need to know is there are differences in the life and work of a monastery and your local parish. It is the monastics “job” to give themselves to routines of prayer, worship, work, and study in a way that will elude most of us with children, jobs, and the multiple commitments of daily life. People who aren’t monastics may feel guilty about what they perceive to be a lack of their own spiritual life as compared to a monastic or attempt to pursue the monastic rigor in a way of life not designed to accommodate it and thereby fall into despair. This is not necessary.
While routines of prayer and spiritual practice are certainly part of an Orthodox life, please know your raising of children in the Faith, your attempts to be Christian at school, work, and in the larger culture are your personal ascetic effort and count as much as the extended prayer and worship cycles of a monastery. After all, every monastic in the world came from a family and so did every Saint on the icons on our parish walls. What is common to both monastic and laity is the desire to purse this Christian life to the best of their ability with God giving them the strength. In the end that, by grace, will be enough whether you live in a monastery or just down the street.
Please also know that while it can be wise to seek the practical advice of people dedicated to a life of prayer you, as a member of a local parish, are not obligated to take on the obedience required of a monastic nor should they ask you to do so. In questions of theology or practice it is the rule (canon) that the teaching office of the Church resides in the Bishops, and that questions related to the expression of our Faith or sacramental issues are theirs for discussion and decision as even monasteries, like parishes, should be under the direction of their local Bishop or Synod.
Finally, do consider that the closest monastery may not necessarily be the best option as there are other factors to be included in your decision to visit and take part in a monastic world. New monasteries may need to “season” a bit to develop a life and flow before they take on visitors. Some monasteries may have a rigor that is suited to those living in them but not applicable to the world outside their walls. As you test the spirits (1 John 4:1) in your own life be open to enjoying the blessings that can come from visiting a monastery but also be wise to see the practical fruits produced by their communal life over the years.
My own recommendation for people to visit St. Tikhon’s in Pennsylvania, for example, is rooted in their being over a century old, home to five actual Saints, and possessing of a well-established pan-Orthodox reputation for both zeal and wisdom. There are other places like this, and we can speak of them if you wish to consider taking the time to find not just “any” monastery but the one that may be most well rounded and beneficial to your growth in Christ.
Someday we will also, as Antiochian Orthodox, have a well-developed and thriving monastic life in this country. We have a small monastic community in Tennessee in its infancy, and, by God’s grace, we look forward to an expansion of monasticism here in the United States. It would be my joy to have one of our family at St. Ignatius take on the monastic life and, if you wish, please feel free to speak to me about options for visiting and supporting monasteries even as you, living in the world, make your own heart a monastery wherever you are.




