Worth Contemplating…

We Orthodox are not Always Perfect, but Stay the Course!

Orthodoxy is not always easy, and there are many parishes that seem to make living our Orthodox faith far more difficult than needs to be. The lack of joy in some quarters is not about Orthodoxy, but about the fallen people who make up the Church. This is to be expected, of course, since the Church is a hospital for the soul, and therefore home to a lot of sick people. The good news is, we are all in the right place for the needed healing to take place, and wholeness and lasting joy will come to everyone who stays the course.

Don’t ever let a mean spirited parishioner, nor a harsh speaking priest, drive you from the Church. This is your home as well, and, just as in a dysfunctional household, a lot of growth can take place, even when the parish is not ideal. Pray for your priest, and for the people who have made you feel uncomfortable. Pray to Saint John the Wonderworker of San Francisco, who was such a loving father and pastor, for help. Although a good confessor and great preacher would be preferable to the priest who never has the time for you, the Church is still the place for you. He may deliver lousy homilies, and may seem harsh as a confession, and devoid of people skills, the reality is the Church is still the place for you.

There is an old saying in Orthodox: “The people get the bishop they deserve”. Instead of walking away from Orthodoxy, look around for a parish that might be a better fit for you and your family. If language is a problem for your children, find a parish that uses English. If your parish priest serves like a sorcerer, with all the correct and lengthy formulas, but is devoid of the love of Christ, pray for him. Yet if you and your children would benefit, by all means look into the possibility that another parish might be a better fit, and a place where you can all grow in the faith. Better to leave a dysfunctional parish, than to leave Orthodoxy.

If you have no other options, and your parish is the only Orthodox church in the region, make the best of it. Remember, most parishes were closed down completely during Soviet times. The priests and bishops sent off to their deaths, yet the Church lived on with the faithful making do under the harshest of times.

Ultimately, your life in the Church is all about Christ, and Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He will not betray you, for He is the source of all joy and goodness. It is Christ Who is the Great Physician, the Giver of Life, and the Healer of Souls. The Church belongs to Him, and in spite of the fact we priests sometimes fail to be the Light of Christ to our people, does in no way negate the fact that the Church is still the Fountain of Life, and the place wherein we can receive healing of all that ails us.

Love in Christ,
Abbot Tryphon

More Wisdom…

It is always possible to make a new start by means of repentance. “You fell,” it is written, “now arise” (Proverbs 24:16). And if you fall again, then rise again, without despairing at all of your salvation, no matter what happens. As long as you do not surrender yourself willingly to the enemy, your patient endurance, combined with self-reproach, will suffice for your salvation. “For at one time we ourselves went astray in our folly and disobedience,” says St. Paul. ” . . . Yet he saved us, not because of any good things we had done, but in his mercy” (Titus 3:5). So do not despair in any way, ignoring God’s help, for he can do whatever he wishes. On the contrary, place your hope in him and he will do one of these things: either through trials and temptations, or in some other way which he alone knows, he will bring about your restoration, – or he will accept your patient endurance and humility in the place of works, – or because of your hope he will act lovingly toward you in some other way of which you are not aware, and so will save your shackled soul. Only do not abandon your Physician.

St Peter of Damascus

Via the Holy Fathers Facebook Page

A Word of Wisdom…

“And I, a sinner, have been trying to love God for more than forty years, and cannot say that I perfectly love Him. If we love someone we always remember him and try to please him; day and night our heart is occupied with that object.

Is that how you, gentlemen, love God? Do you often turn to Him, do you always remember Him, do you always pray to Him and fulfill His holy commandments? ‘For our good, for our happiness at least let us make a vow that from this day, from this hour, from this minute we shall strive to love God above all else and to fulfill His holy will.’”

– St. Herman of Alaska

Via the Holy Fathers Facebook Page

For These Times…

“There is nothing better than peace in Christ, for it brings victory over all the evil spirits on earth and in the air. When peace dwells in a man’s heart it enables him to contemplate the grace of the Holy Spirit from within. He who dwells in peace collects spiritual gifts as it were with a scoop, and he sheds the light of knowledge on others. All our thoughts, all our desires, all our efforts, and all our actions should make us say constantly with the Church: “O Lord, give us peace!” When a man lives in peace, God reveals mysteries to him..”

– St. Seraphim of Sarov

On Prayer…

“Sometimes during a lengthy prayer only a few minutes are really pleasing to God, and constitute true prayer, true service to Him. The chief thing in prayer is the nearness of the heart to God.”

– St. John of Kronstadt

 

New Jersey…

will, apparently, be joining California as a state that bans licensed therapists from practicing what it defines as “conversion therapy” for people who identify as gay. Of course the devil is in the details and while the article presents scenarios (without attribution) where frankly bizarre things were done in the name of changing sexual orientation it presents no details as to the potential scope of the law, the issues of freedom and personal choice that may be involved, and of course the rights of religious persons and institutions.  Read the rest of the article for context.

On the freedom front I find it interesting that in a country where people are pretty much free to consider a wide variety of therapies as a matter of personal choice this one is singled out. The answer, I believe, is ideology. The standard approved line on the topic is that sexual orientation is genetic and permanent and this must be defended in law so that any dissent is curtailed before it can start. You may find someone to give you a colonic while chanting Buddhist scriptures in a sweat lodge and this is a freedom you enjoy but if you decide you are uncomfortable with the direction of your sexual life and seek to change you run afoul of the law. People deride those who speak of a “gay agenda” but there certainly are orthodoxies among the secular classes that they believe are superior to other orthodoxies and that must be defended, if need be, by curtailing the freedom of others. This is one of them.

On the religious front it will be the defense of those secular orthodoxies by the powerful that will eventually lead to the legal and social stigmatizing of observant believers and their institutions. There will be no gulags for the faithful, but there will be, and already are, legal and social doors that are slamming in our faces. Because we have chosen not to be “of this world” we should not be surprised when this world acts accordingly. I presume that in the future, perhaps the near future, there will be a push to remove tax exempt status and other legal protections of groups that refuse to embrace the new agenda. This has already been proposed in California and somewhere along the line it will find its way to passage and to the courts. In the present observant religious believers, particularly Christians, are being handicapped by virtue of their beliefs in employment and licensing for some professions.  I think it would be wise for observant Christians to understand this and be prepared for it.

Now the first reaction of some, when they become aware of this, may be to seek a political solution. Yet I believe this will be difficult because politicians of both parties are defenders of these secular orthodoxies, especially in the area of sexuality. Governor Jerry Brown of California and Gov. Chris Christie of New Jersey are in two different parties but they share the same desire to enforce secular sexual orthodoxies on the people of their states. A deciding vote in the Supreme Court’s review and subsequent striking down of sections of the Defense of Marriage Act was a Republican appointee. There are very rich and powerful people who may disagree vehemently on how to run an economy but share the idea that any moral restraint is a sign of backwardness, a relic of an era they would like to see disappear.

The answer, I believe, lies elsewhere for the observant Christian community.

We have two incredible assets on our side, truth and love. A traditional Christian sexual morality is life-giving and healthy and those who follow it will avoid many hurts, illnesses, and much brokenness. This is a fact and the hard evidence is starting to come in.  However the laws may change at a given time it is becomingly increasingly impossible to ignore the truth of what we strive to live for because that truth is rooted in the very nature of our bodies and our souls. It’s simply a medical fact that the more people a person has sex with, and the kinds of partners they have sex with, has a direct relationship to the frequency of disease and social pathology. As the studies roll in eventually the evidence itself will storm the walls and take down the castle. A Christian sexual morality is difficult, and especially so in a culture where there is real money to be made and power to be gained by destroying it, but it does work and those who attempt to practice it will find themselves remarkably free, not necessarily of struggle, but of many of the pathologies that mark our age.

The second asset, and perhaps the more powerful, is love. The criticism that others may bring towards the Church and religiously observant people has a certain kind of resonance among some in our culture because there is a grain of truth to it. We have often, as observant Christians, been unloving towards the larger world. We’ve forgotten that even those who would harm us still bear within them some form of the image of God. We sometimes lose track of the idea that even truth can be bitter when it is presented without genuine concern and love. The guy wearing the leather thong with a body full of tattoos and pink hair at the Gay Pride event is not our enemy and we’ve sometimes reacted to him, and other like him, as if they were. Now I’m not suggesting that we practice love as the world does, like some form of nebulous approval for any and every thing. Rather love for us is the seeking of the betterment of the other not necessarily as they, or we, define it but as God does. To the extent that we actually practice this love we, and the Traditions passed down to us through history (Love, by the way, is a capital “T” Tradition for Orthodox Christians) will have life and resonance in the larger world. Authentic Christian love is more powerful than the State, always has been and always will be because the State is about coercion and love is about conversion.

So if New Jersey actually does adopt this law will it be a better place? Not really. This attempt to close off any exits for the person genuinely seeking something different for their sexual lives exposes the fragility of the current secular sexual orthodoxy.  It shows that they have lost the power of conviction and have reverted to force. Such an understanding in the laws that govern New jersey will not make it a better place to live, even for the people those laws are supposed to protect, because it reminds the people in New Jersey it is the State and not the individual which defines the parameters of conscience. The social programmers will achieve part of their temporary utopia at the expense of the broader freedom of their subjects, but that’s what utopians always do and why utopias always fall.

As to the Church, in the fire She will shine. New Jersey is a legal fiction, so is the United States by the way, an artificial boundary created by the temporarily powerful who have for the moment determined that this is what this area shall be called and this is how the people living there will organize themselves. Compared to the life of the Church the life of New Jersey is a blip and a thousand years after the maps change (and they always do) She will still be present, alive, and active in the world. If we truly understand this such moments as these will not strike fear, anger, or desperation into our hearts but call us, instead, to be who we are meant to be in the fullest sense of the word. What, ultimately, can the times do to people who are already living in eternity?