On Prayer…

“Sometimes during a lengthy prayer only a few minutes are really pleasing to God, and constitute true prayer, true service to Him. The chief thing in prayer is the nearness of the heart to God.”

– St. John of Kronstadt

 

For the Grads…

Just a note to those soon to head off to college.

College is not the “real” world. What they teach you there may have little or no congruence to the actual world you will enter when you leave. A large amount of what you learn in college you will forget, some of it you should forget, and the rest will probably be rendered obsolete.

If you understand this you can make the best of your time in college and learn the one lesson that is most important without costing you $50 K a year. That lesson is that you will always be a learner and the skills you develop in college as a learner, provided the people who instruct you also have them, will actually make a difference in your real life. If you know how to learn, that is be genuinely inquisitive, test information, and remain curious to the possibilities of knowledge you will do well because you will need those skills in every endeavor. You will need those skills in the years after college because jobs change and your career path will have many twists and turns. You will also, depending on the field you choose, need to spend some time after college “unlearning” the things you were taught at the University because those who can’t do often teach and no where is this more true than academia.  If you develop as a learner you will do well. Otherwise you’ll just have a degree.

Please be real, as well,  about what you want to do with your education. A degree in “gender studies” is a ticket to a post college career as a barista unless you happen to be one of the very few well-connected people who can find a job that actually requires those skills. Some of you shouldn’t even go to a liberal arts university or college because you would be better suited, and eventually much better paid, to go to a technical college or school where they more often than not actually do train you for something that works outside the classroom. We have these dreamy ideas about college but eventually you’ll have to walk out of the ivy covered buildings and into a place where people actually expect to be paid real money for food, shelter, and stuff. Keep that in mind as you browse the class catalog.

Finally, despite the temptations, keep your moral integrity and keep your faith.  You can be potentially blessed or scarred for life by the choices that you make in college free of the safety of your parent’s home.  It’s a heady time to be out there and on your own in a world of ideas but there can be a dark side and your faith will help you make sense of it all. It’s good to be smart, but its better to be wise and the fear, that is the deep respect, of God is the beginning of wisdom.  Make learning about God and being part of His Church an integral part of your education. Remember that your Orthodox Faith is not so much about saying “No” to things but rather saying “Yes” to better things.

Lecture’s over. I had lots of fun in college and found it to be way more interesting than high school. When I retire I plan to go back and get one of those impractical degrees like Anthropology just because it would be cool. I met my wife in college and that alone was more than worth the cost of tuition.  I learned a lot of good things way back when at Bemidji State University and the memories have endured. Make the best of it, love God, and so will you.

New Jersey…

will, apparently, be joining California as a state that bans licensed therapists from practicing what it defines as “conversion therapy” for people who identify as gay. Of course the devil is in the details and while the article presents scenarios (without attribution) where frankly bizarre things were done in the name of changing sexual orientation it presents no details as to the potential scope of the law, the issues of freedom and personal choice that may be involved, and of course the rights of religious persons and institutions.  Read the rest of the article for context.

On the freedom front I find it interesting that in a country where people are pretty much free to consider a wide variety of therapies as a matter of personal choice this one is singled out. The answer, I believe, is ideology. The standard approved line on the topic is that sexual orientation is genetic and permanent and this must be defended in law so that any dissent is curtailed before it can start. You may find someone to give you a colonic while chanting Buddhist scriptures in a sweat lodge and this is a freedom you enjoy but if you decide you are uncomfortable with the direction of your sexual life and seek to change you run afoul of the law. People deride those who speak of a “gay agenda” but there certainly are orthodoxies among the secular classes that they believe are superior to other orthodoxies and that must be defended, if need be, by curtailing the freedom of others. This is one of them.

On the religious front it will be the defense of those secular orthodoxies by the powerful that will eventually lead to the legal and social stigmatizing of observant believers and their institutions. There will be no gulags for the faithful, but there will be, and already are, legal and social doors that are slamming in our faces. Because we have chosen not to be “of this world” we should not be surprised when this world acts accordingly. I presume that in the future, perhaps the near future, there will be a push to remove tax exempt status and other legal protections of groups that refuse to embrace the new agenda. This has already been proposed in California and somewhere along the line it will find its way to passage and to the courts. In the present observant religious believers, particularly Christians, are being handicapped by virtue of their beliefs in employment and licensing for some professions.  I think it would be wise for observant Christians to understand this and be prepared for it.

Now the first reaction of some, when they become aware of this, may be to seek a political solution. Yet I believe this will be difficult because politicians of both parties are defenders of these secular orthodoxies, especially in the area of sexuality. Governor Jerry Brown of California and Gov. Chris Christie of New Jersey are in two different parties but they share the same desire to enforce secular sexual orthodoxies on the people of their states. A deciding vote in the Supreme Court’s review and subsequent striking down of sections of the Defense of Marriage Act was a Republican appointee. There are very rich and powerful people who may disagree vehemently on how to run an economy but share the idea that any moral restraint is a sign of backwardness, a relic of an era they would like to see disappear.

The answer, I believe, lies elsewhere for the observant Christian community.

We have two incredible assets on our side, truth and love. A traditional Christian sexual morality is life-giving and healthy and those who follow it will avoid many hurts, illnesses, and much brokenness. This is a fact and the hard evidence is starting to come in.  However the laws may change at a given time it is becomingly increasingly impossible to ignore the truth of what we strive to live for because that truth is rooted in the very nature of our bodies and our souls. It’s simply a medical fact that the more people a person has sex with, and the kinds of partners they have sex with, has a direct relationship to the frequency of disease and social pathology. As the studies roll in eventually the evidence itself will storm the walls and take down the castle. A Christian sexual morality is difficult, and especially so in a culture where there is real money to be made and power to be gained by destroying it, but it does work and those who attempt to practice it will find themselves remarkably free, not necessarily of struggle, but of many of the pathologies that mark our age.

The second asset, and perhaps the more powerful, is love. The criticism that others may bring towards the Church and religiously observant people has a certain kind of resonance among some in our culture because there is a grain of truth to it. We have often, as observant Christians, been unloving towards the larger world. We’ve forgotten that even those who would harm us still bear within them some form of the image of God. We sometimes lose track of the idea that even truth can be bitter when it is presented without genuine concern and love. The guy wearing the leather thong with a body full of tattoos and pink hair at the Gay Pride event is not our enemy and we’ve sometimes reacted to him, and other like him, as if they were. Now I’m not suggesting that we practice love as the world does, like some form of nebulous approval for any and every thing. Rather love for us is the seeking of the betterment of the other not necessarily as they, or we, define it but as God does. To the extent that we actually practice this love we, and the Traditions passed down to us through history (Love, by the way, is a capital “T” Tradition for Orthodox Christians) will have life and resonance in the larger world. Authentic Christian love is more powerful than the State, always has been and always will be because the State is about coercion and love is about conversion.

So if New Jersey actually does adopt this law will it be a better place? Not really. This attempt to close off any exits for the person genuinely seeking something different for their sexual lives exposes the fragility of the current secular sexual orthodoxy.  It shows that they have lost the power of conviction and have reverted to force. Such an understanding in the laws that govern New jersey will not make it a better place to live, even for the people those laws are supposed to protect, because it reminds the people in New Jersey it is the State and not the individual which defines the parameters of conscience. The social programmers will achieve part of their temporary utopia at the expense of the broader freedom of their subjects, but that’s what utopians always do and why utopias always fall.

As to the Church, in the fire She will shine. New Jersey is a legal fiction, so is the United States by the way, an artificial boundary created by the temporarily powerful who have for the moment determined that this is what this area shall be called and this is how the people living there will organize themselves. Compared to the life of the Church the life of New Jersey is a blip and a thousand years after the maps change (and they always do) She will still be present, alive, and active in the world. If we truly understand this such moments as these will not strike fear, anger, or desperation into our hearts but call us, instead, to be who we are meant to be in the fullest sense of the word. What, ultimately, can the times do to people who are already living in eternity?

Some Thoughts…

I think it’s a good thing for observant Christians to ask questions of those in public office. The question is always a matter of style. Remember, we need to seek the salvation of every human, even those who would do us harm, and so our approach has to be towards that end. We can state our disagreements. We can argue for our cause. Yet we need to do so in a way that the person we are addressing sees Christ in us. This can be a challenging thing in these times, when everything, including the political discourse, seems crass and confrontational. Yet we as Christians, I believe, need to lead the country to better things and a Christian witness in the public discourse, both in style and substance, is a first step.

Chastity…

Chastity by C. S. Lewis

Chastity is the most unpopular of the Christian virtues. There is no getting away from it: the old Christian rule is, “Either marriage, with complete faithfulness to your partner, or else total abstinence.” Now this is so difficult and so contrary to our instincts, that obviously either Christianity is wrong or our sexual instinct, as it now is, has gone wrong. One or the other. Of course, being a Christian, I think it is the instinct which has gone wrong.

But I have other reasons for thinking so. The biological purpose of sex is children, just as the biological purpose of eating is to repair the body. Now if we eat whenever we feel inclined and just as much as we want, it is quite true that most of us will eat too much: but not terrifically too much. One man may eat enough for two, but he does not eat enough for ten. The appetite goes a little beyond its biological purpose, but not enormously. But if a healthy young man indulged his sexual appetite whenever he felt inclined, and if each act produced a baby, then in ten years he might easily populate a small village. This appetite is in ludicrous and preposterous excess of its function.

Or take it another way. You can get a large audience together for a striptease act — that is, to watch a girl undress on the stage. Now suppose you came to a country where you could fill a theater by simply bring a covered plate on to the stage and then slowly lifting the cover so as to let everyone see, just before the lights went out, that it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon, would you not think that in that country something had gone wrong with the appetite for food? And would not anyone who had grown up in a different world think there was something equally queer about the state of the sex instinct among us?

Here is a third point. You find very few people who want to eat things that really are not food or to do other things with food instead of eating it. In other words, perversions of the food appetite are rare. But perversions of the sex instinct are numerous, hard to cure, and frightful. I am sorry to have to go into [this], but I must. The reason why I must is that you and I, for the last [seventy or so] years have been told, till one is sick of hearing it, that sexual desire is in the same state as any of our other natural desires and that if only we abandon the silly old Victorian idea of hushing it up, everything in the garden will be lovely. It is not true. The moment you look at the facts, and away from the propaganda, you see that it is not.

(from: The Joyful Christian; Readings from C. S. Lewis)

ht to Bishop Melchisedek Pleska

On the State of Things…

There is a hunger among us for something different, something better, something true, real, and good in ourselves and all the institutions of our culture. The desire is almost palpable in the air and the hunger is past the point of pain. Something is wrong and we’re not quite sure what it is. Consider this.

For years in the media, the arts, our schools, our businesses, our religious structures, and the greater culture we’ve been told that morals, truth, righteousness, and all good things are whatever a person decides is appropriate in their own world view.  By and large all of us have bought into this in one way or another, lured by the promise of freedom and the possibilities of a soul unlimited by even reasonable constraints. Ancient wisdom formed in the crucible of centuries of human experience has been discarded. We assume that technological progress is the same as the evolution of the human being. We thought we were being progressive and oriented towards a utopian future. Because we can make a better car we came to believe that we were also wiser, more enlightened, and better than the ideas and people who came before us.  Yet something is missing.

Slowly we’re discovering that we’ve succeeded in creating, instead of some brave new human,  a whole generation plus of self-centered individuals with a fetish for our own desires as civil rights and very little consideration for the world of people outside our own orbit. Our children are becoming little monsters and our politicians remain little children. We believe in nothing beyond the next pleasure and live without a past so we have no future. Our institutions reflect this and are the way they are because they are from us and we are in a very sorry state of things. Now we wonder what has happened and fear for the future.

We don’t need a new political party, a new product, a new corporation, or even a new government. We need a new worldview. And as Orthodox Christians it has to start with Christ and His church, the primal and over arching culture to which we are all supposed to belong.

To do this we will need to see our churches not simply as centers of worship, although true worship is at the heart of things, or places where we socialize or, God forbid, as ethnic centers where we sell goods to outsiders to keep the lights on. We need to see our communities as centers of Christian civilization and culture, bastions of holiness and light.  In these places we ourselves will learn, because we often are swept up into our broken culture’s vision, about our Faith as a worldview that impacts every bit of our existence and learn how to practice it and share it with the larger world. In worship we will set our hearts in their proper alignment. In learning we will discover truth that endures. In being community we will help each other along the pilgrim way. The renewal of a culture begins with the revival of the Church. If we want the world to shine with grace and glory we, each of us have to shine, and our churches must be ablaze as well. The world needs examples of the good things we proclaim, proof that there’s some kind of substantial hope. If we are not it then what?

I am convinced that today, somewhere a Saint is being made. Who it may be is not mine to know. God knows. Yet in this world of darkness it will be those transfigured people, Saints in the making, and transfigured churches, where the unconquered Light will shine and through them the world will be renewed. Let it be us.